Situation #1.3: Our family members speak very little English at home. It is getting more difficult these days to communicate with my child now that he is only speaking English that he learns from school.Reality: Many immigrants are facing a familiar and common issue: their children are losing their native language. Studies show that losing a language can be devastating for family bondage. The fact that families cannot communicate with their children fully hinders the intimacy necessary to pass on beliefs, values, and identity to generations after. Children lose their native self as a result of assimilation into the mainstream society.There are children, and sometimes their family, who have come to believe that speaking Chinese is inferior to speaking English, an obvious thing in their view that obstructs them in gaining acceptance from the society at large, besides their dress and having a Chinese name. In school, they want to be included and recognized as Americans, not rejected as immigrants.It is common, especially in the Chinese culture, to believe that school provides success. Perhaps it is true that it may open doors in the career-related, thus monetary, sense. But what about success in life? That is, what about knowing who we are and where we come from? What about understanding how we connect to our significant others, and to each event that comes our way? What is our responsibility to ourselves, our family, and our community? Why are we Chinese? All these and more can only be best answered by our own family, not the school.

If one loses his language, he too will inevitably and unnoticeably lose a major part of his own identity because we develop our self-identity through our culture. Moreover, their eventual inadequacy of Chinese may make them feel inferior and unintelligent as a result, indirectly forcing them to adopt other cultural value as their own, placing a biased view toward their own ethnic group unexpectedly and unknowingly.

Many families think it is only part of the process of becoming American and do not address the issue until it is too late. Not all children can switch back to speaking Chinese as easily. The reality is, when a child is not actively using Chinese in everyday interactions, he cannot develop it any further and is extremely likely to either retain it at a level not in his age range, or lose it altogether as a result.

Language is not an object that can be tossed about like material possessions. One’s soul, mind, spirit and kinship to one another reside in the language. That is what would be lost if one loses his language.

Situation #1.2: Our family is Chinese, and the adult members speak Chinese to each other, but all of us usually use English to speak to our child at home because we are not sure if there is any benefit in her learning Chinese.Reality: Research has shown that not only is there no detrimental effect, but there are tremendous benefits for children learning more than one language. First, children in many dual language programs globally have consistently achieved at the same or higher level in academic performance tests than those who are monolingual. These include those who are English learners and those who are struggling with their primary language. Second, bilingual students often experience better results cognitively and linguistically in tasks that require creativity and problem solving than monolinguals. Third, not only are they able to communicate in two languages, they are also more receptive to appreciate and respect other cultures and values in a world that is pulled ever so much closer by the minute. This serves as a strong foundation for building up oneself to understand, embrace, and enjoy differences. Finally, most families use globalism as a primary reason that they want their children to learn a second language. There is no doubt that knowing another language prepares one for the wealth of opportunities that lie ahead in the future economic market.